Sometimes in this mad rush of normalizing life we often forget the inner insane heart which abhores the mundane normality. The madness needs expression yet we choose suppression to get the sense of security from the unknown faces;our heart yearns to know them. The stern faces with unbreakable boundaries express constant negation for your heart to enter. Still we live disillusioned waiting for the day when our heart will break the boundary. We are indefatigable workers, so we continue to break our heart in that futile attempt to be understood . After a while it becomes too painful to give that little space to the wounded organ in the body. We decide to kill it, get rid of it. It so happens that we become normal again. We are successful, normal and busy in the mundane reality of lives with the pieces of the wounded organ dissolved in the universe. We are the 'happy' Island.
Catharsis.
This is my monologue, the untainted conversation.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Salaam Bombay!
In past few
days, I could relate very well to what Steve Jobs said about love,
If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of heart, you'll know when you find it and like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.
If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of heart, you'll know when you find it and like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.
My
first impression of Bombay was from bollywood. Growing up in tier 2 cities, I
saw Bombay only in TV. As a child, I was scared of Bombay. It was a land of
tricksters. It was a land where people would go to become Amitabh Bacchan and
disappear somewhere. The ugly Bombay of ‘Slumdog Millionaire’ full of deep
shit, land of haftavasooli, and child
abuse, it will always shake me to the core. I still remember the time when
Gulshan Kumar assassination happened; I was so scared to see the news on the
TV. I never wanted to go to Bombay. Life in my small quaint city was good.
Bombay was not real.It existed in idiot-box always.
The twenty four
year old me landed in Bombay for the first time. It was a halt for half a day.
The only thing that caught my notice was women getting down from bus a 12.30
am. It surprised me. I am so used to stay in state of terror in the national
capital or for that matter in my home town also. I have had never smelled air
of freedom. How does it feel like to roam at night? I kept looking at the woman
from my window and slept with the question in my head,’ How does it feel to
roam at night?’ That question erased my hatred for Bombay. My sub-conscious was getting to know the
answer.
I returned to
Bombay after five years. Walking alone with my suit-case, I came out of Bombay-
Central station. The narrow slim roads, and high rise buildings and sea-link,
Bombay I was in love this time. The taxi driver started narrating me the story
of how he found his life in Bombay. He came to the city some thirty years back
as a laborer and never wanted to go back to his village in Uttar Pradesh. He
just quipped, ‘Madam dilliwalon ko Bombay
mein kaafi accha lagta hai.’ I smiled and was thinking ‘I am not dilliwali, I am from Uttar Pradesh. We
have the same story.I am in Delhi for the same reason, you are in Bombay. Just
that I am not in love with Delhi.’
After our run
in Sanjay Gandhi National Park, I had the first vada paao of my life with Thumbs-up. I posed and got clicked with
Thums-up. The little kid in me sang, ‘Thums-up
the taste that thunders.’ It rained cats and dogs. She and I ran to catch our local to Chhatraapati
Shivaji Terminus. This had become a daily routine. My Bombay friends will often
ask me,’ why do you take the train to CST
every day? What do you do at Colaba? Is this what you took leave for?’
After tying
that religious wish thread in Haji Ali on the first day of Ramzan, She and I sat at marine drive. Life has so many questions.
That big wave washed them away. No I did not get the answers for my questions.
It was like that grandmother’s soothing touch on the head which reassured,’ It will be allright.’ To
my left was young couple sitting holding hands, chatting and kissing in
between; to my right were youngsters,probably celebrating their new
job; at the back was Trident, where the elite stopped.’ Bombay is so slim, it accommodates all in so much less space. People sit so dangerously close to each other, in the trains, at marine drive. Same is the case with cars. A friend says, if Bombay had infrastructure of Delhi, life would have been so good.True but then love is unconditional. I embrace Bombay with all its stink, humidity and terrible traffic.
After that customary halt
at Leopald, we again took a taxi back to Powai. It was 12 midnight. Of the best
things in life, Bombay has offered me that smell of freedom and that sense of association with everyone around . Words cannot do
justice to small joys of life.
Bombay, you are my latest love. It is not the
love at first sight but the one which grows with time.
I will be back soon.
I will be back soon.
Sunday, January 26, 2014
Eat, PRAY, Love
In retrospect, the second half year
of 2013 has been the one of the most luxurious and decadent life, I have lived.
For an otherwise ascetic person with tremendous control, such splurge and
lavishness came as a pleasant surprise to me. It was pleasant because of tremendous
joy I experienced but decadent for reminding me of the ‘dark ages’ from the European
history classes from school.
The history of such sudden change dates to an
year back when I had a sudden heart ache. My mind decided to take control. So
it decided to follow 3 NJs: no junk food, no junk thoughts, and no junk
clothes. The three NJs came as a sudden
rescue for my sixty inches structure weighing 154 pounds. That structure would
refuse to budge without thirteen hours of sleep. Excessive running was the enabling strategy to
achieve ‘no junk thought’. With these NJs, I scribbled some goals in my diary.
The indefatigable ascetic worked every minute to achieve them. The end of year
showed a positive trajectory to all the goals.
In the midst of 2013, the
weighing machine whispered once, ‘116.6 pounds.’ Adding to it, my friends told
me, ‘Are you in love? You are so chirpy all the time.’
There was no looking back then. The
tickets to Paris were booked; to wine and dine. Samosas and rasmalais
were back. The ascetism evaporated in a second. Such was a power of weighing
machine’s whisper. So July to October was making up for the tremendous loss in
the past year. Samosas, Golgappas,
Tikkis, Gaajar ka halwa, rasmallai, paranthas and in Europe; blue wine, pink wine, red wine, white wine,
home made wine and of course cheese. November meant weddings, so more eating and
shopping. From Chandani Chowk to T - Nagar, my footprints prints seen in
every shop. You name it and I have it; Blue, red, green, turquoise, black and
gold. That ephemeral moment of dressing
up for two hours everyday and changing make-ups, that defined November. End of November; it was time to speak to the
enlightened master; the weighing machine. She whispered, ‘135 pounds’. My heart was cold and again the same ache.
The asceticism condensed; ascetic was back for rescue.
Ascetic decided to pay for the
entire splurge. The first payment came in the form of first half marathon. The shooting pain reminded that what life
worth is of if not this pain. This was also the time to empty the wardrobe; donations
and more donations. This also meant no
shopping in the sale season. That was the toughest punishment so far but I
successfully lived it. Even after all
this, there was a burdening guilt. I did not know where it was coming from.
Even weighing machine was silent this time.
Now it was the time for dermatologist to talk, ‘excessive stress, lack
of sleep, grey hair, and hair fall’. I decided to speak to ascetic and he said,
‘Give life a chance, get surprises, stop planning, Stay in zero, observe faith’.
I was sitting in the Golden Temple
in Amritsar. Like a curious child with my goal diary, I asked trillion
questions to ascetic, all he said. 'Shhhhh!’ To the same curiosity, Hermen
Hesse answered me in the speeding train,
What could I say to you that would be of value,
except that perhaps you seek too much, that as a result of your seeking you
cannot find.
Amritsar,
you answered all the questions in once.
Monday, January 6, 2014
Resolution for 2014: Feeling the beauty of breathing
I had this enlightening conversation with my superior in the last week of December on sense of time. He asked me ,'How important is sense of time for you?' I pondered and said, 'very important' and then mentioned the list of things I usually plan for the day. Generally, I am quite obsessed with filling up every minute with something. I have a restless brain of a child which is becoming all the more restless after the fitness schedule I follow. I find nothingness scary. I almost cry when I have nothing to do. Bel far niente is not my cup of tea. I am heading towards third decade of my life at the speed of light and my restlessness is growing at the exponential rate. I thought all this was a matter of pride and glory, until that discussion.
I see him as a father figure or rather grandfather figure. He said, ' Time is of no use. Actions are not important. How you stitch them together is of utmost importance. What is the use of ticking things is your check list, if you did not get time to stop, breathe and feel the joy? Is it just achiever's ego which means happiness to you? Shouldn't you find more depth in the happiness?'
I have been thinking about my new year's resolution. I am slowing down and contracting my 'to do' list. I want to feel the beauty of breathing. I have my first resolution of the year; 101 Suryanamaskars by end of second quarter of 2014. :).Currently my count is 50 in one go.
Sun salutations: Unleash the power within you gradually.
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
2.30s
How 2.30s in my life has changed?
My faintest memory of afternoon 2.30 is of summer of 1989 is. Didi would come jumping around from school, hug me and shower her kisses
on me. Mummy would ask both of us to go for shower and didi and I will sing:
I hear thunder, I hear
thunder.
Hark don't you? Hark don't you?
Pitter, patter raindrops,
Pitter, patter raindrops,
I'm wet through; so are you.
I would laugh at my loudest. Seeing her
singing gave such adrenaline rush. One of the most absolute form of happiness,
I can recall from the initial years of my life. I would clap and dance. Mummy
would come and wrap both of us in towel. Lunch was
followed by afternoon siesta. Papa would try to sing to make us sleep and didi
and I would silently giggle at his attempts waiting him to sleep. We would quietly slip away for our singing, jumping, dancing.
It was 1995. I was happy that papa was
transferred to a nice place. Only because I changed my school and I could spend
more time at home doing nothing than sleeping on my sister’s lap in school bus.
The new school was just ten minutes walk. 2.30 was the time when I would be
finishing my lunch. I would be painting after that. I had this nice drawing
note book with camel poster colors. These were my prized possessions. I also had
brushes of all the number. All my life will be focused
on 2.30 afternoon drawing sessions. There was a big study table in our room
which didi used. I was very attached
to the school uniform especially the white shirt; the only oddness in otherwise colorful
2.30s. Mum would scream at me but I would never change. It was only during evening
that I would change. What a moment of solitude it used to be. Starting from
2.30, everybody at home would be taking the afternoon nap and I would secretly
paint. Secretly because mum expected me to take rest but I discovered in me the
indefatigable painter.
2004, we would be sitting in lab, waiting
for the titration results to come or Frog's muscle twitching. Those centrifugation tubes, pipette, titration
experiments. There were no chairs in the lab. I would always wear my torn jeans
so that when diluted hydrochloric acid falls on my jeans, I would not regret. We
looked like those car mechanics with greased white lab coats. I so much hated
these 2.30s. There was nothing exciting about them. All I would look for will be
running away, escaping to some unknown territory away from that four walled
laboratory. I would have those silent tears in my heart.
2009, I will be sitting in environment
law classes discussing polluter pays principles, M.C Mehta’s cases, wildlife
protection act, Public Interest Litigations. How much engrossed I would be. The
next class would talk about diminishing resources, optimization and marginal
utilities. I was glad to be away from four walls of lab but that longing for
siesta would often remain especially triggered by the lectures.
2013, I am supposed to be analyzing policies,
intricacies of what renaissance forestry sector in India needs and the
description of this 2.30 is shortest. Probably, I left my heart in 2.30 of
summer of 1989 and I never use brain when I visit ‘catharsis’
Monday, June 17, 2013
Soliloquy
I am healing, I am not growing. I am perfectly fine. You
cannot grow until you have retained your original self. I dipped to negative, I
thought I was growing but I was slipping into nadir sooner than soon. It scared
me. Those lonely dark nights when all I did was staring at the stars, the gaze
becoming hazier due to waterfalls in the eye. The salty liquid kissing my lips
and touching my tongue. It was all so real. The ‘renaissance’ man did that to
me. I forgot my benchmarks; I started living a life of hallucination. Simple
things stopped mattering to me. Nothing seemed important but chase. After all
when you run, then only you feel the pleasure. Then only you lose yourself.
Chase and you become synonymous. But here I am tonight. I bruised myself
running so much so that I can’t run anymore. I disappointed Renaissance man. I
thought I will be healed but then chase will suffer if anyone waited for me to
get healed. I now here in the dirt, the mud; believe it as my reality. The cold
mud soothes me. I take deep breaths. I can’t run further. I am enjoying this
dirt. It comforts me. I can still see the Renaissance man running as fast he
could. He looked back at me. That one gaze infused a gush of energy. I tried
gaining inertia again but I fell and mud is soothing me. This healing seems
eternal.
Monday, May 20, 2013
Trivia
Happiness, how you chase it and
how it eludes. My dear grandfather used to tell me, ‘the world is within. You
really think you need to see whole of it to be happy?’ I would always label
this kind of statement as preachy and in my head will tell myself ‘he is a
crazy old man who will not understand my generation’. Now when he is not here,
I miss his preachy talks. At the peak of
depression when I had no clue what will keep me happy, it was his lines which
helped me. My world is within. External stimulus just helps in perceiving
things but the power of perception is within. Probably I had lost that. Those
silent minutes of conversations with myself every night has helped me
tremendously. Happiness I realized lie in simple things:
- Exercise: What I liked about my grandfather was his formidable freedom. In his 70s, he could be free because he was physically fit. An hour of running makes you feel like an achiever. The incremental speed you achieve each day is like a blessing you receive from god.
- Money: Earn more. Money gives you happiness and freedom to exercise your will. You might have a great support system around you but then you should be really possessive about your earnings. It keeps you contended and happy.
- Job/ career: Do your job. May be it’s just a halting place before you really do what you wanted to do but it’s paying you. Get it done and value it. There are lots of people who are craving to get it. May be your job was a career for them.
- Sleep: If you can have 7-8 hours of sleep every night, you can’t ask for anything more
- People: Pessimism is dangerous. Avoid people who waste time on just brooding and want you to listen to their negativity in pretext of being realistic. Stop helping people who can help themselves. Don’t be comforting at the cost of your own basic minimal comfort. Morality and humanity could be dangerous sometimes.
- Family: Spend time with them. They may not be the people who are exactly compatible with you but they are the ones who will stand by you in your thick and thin. Don’t distance yourself with them.
- Eat healthy: I have started enjoying my diet a lot since the time I am doing my own cooking. Eat fruits. An apple makes my day. J So much so that I miss it when eat when I don’t have it.
- Reading/ Intense conversations: I think both helps me in unfolding the layers within me. I come closer to myself but be careful about what you read and who you converse with.
- Be Social: Meeting people helps. It does not mean you have to cut open your heart and start sharing things but light conversations, sharing common interests and being nice to people helps. Do little things to make your friend’s happy.
- Love J : Stop finding it. It comes in little ways. It tickles can stay or just go. Make peace with it. J
As Heisenberg
says, ‘It’s impossible to determine position and momentum simultaneously’, I don’t
know my position but this momentum which little things have built in me keeps
me going.
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